Demisexuality
Updated:Demisexuality is a sexual orientation characterized by the inability to experience sexual attraction to someone without first forming a strong emotional connection. Individuals who identify as demisexual typically do not experience primary attraction (based on immediately observable characteristics) but may develop secondary attraction (based on personality, experiences, and emotional connection) over time.
Demisexuality is often considered to be on the asexual spectrum, as demisexual individuals experience limited sexual attraction. However, unlike asexual individuals, demisexuals can experience sexual attraction and desire sex, but only under specific circumstances involving emotional bonding.
Additional Information
The term "demisexual" was coined in 2006 on an asexuality forum, reflecting the need for more nuanced language to describe diverse experiences of sexual attraction. Demisexuality challenges the common assumption that sexual attraction is an immediate or universal experience.
It's important to note that demisexuality is distinct from choosing to abstain from sex until an emotional bond is formed. For demisexual individuals, the lack of sexual attraction without an emotional connection is not a choice but an inherent aspect of their sexuality.
Examples
A demisexual person might not feel sexually attracted to anyone in their social circle until they develop a close friendship with someone, which then leads to sexual attraction.
In dating scenarios, a demisexual individual might prefer to spend significant time getting to know a potential partner before considering any sexual involvement.