Equipment and Toys
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Ballgag
A ballgag is a type of BDSM restraint device consisting of a ball (usually made of silicone, rubber, or plastic) that is strapped into the mouth using leather or nylon straps, primarily used to restrict speech and create a sense of submission during consensual bondage play. The ball is typically between 1.5 to 2 inches in diameter and may have breathing holes for safety.
Bondage Rope
Bondage rope refers to specialized rope or cord designed specifically for consensual restraint and artistic rope bondage practices in BDSM activities, typically made from materials like hemp, jute, cotton, or nylon that prioritize both safety and comfort while minimizing the risk of injury. These ropes are specifically processed and treated to avoid splinters, maintain proper tension, and allow for quick release if needed.
Bullet Vibrator
A bullet vibrator is a small, compact sex toy designed for external stimulation that gets its name from its cylindrical, bullet-like shape. These handheld devices typically range from 2-4 inches in length and use batteries or USB charging to provide targeted vibrations, making them popular for clitoral stimulation and other erogenous zones.
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Chastity
Chastity refers to the practice of abstaining from sexual activity and/or the deliberate restriction of sexual behavior, either temporarily or permanently, often due to personal, religious, or moral beliefs. In modern contexts, it can also refer to the use of chastity devices or engaging in power exchange dynamics where one partner controls the other's sexual activity.
Clitoral Suction Vibrator
A clitoral suction vibrator is a sex toy that uses pulses of air pressure and subtle vibrations to stimulate the clitoris without direct contact, creating a sensation that mimics oral sex. Unlike traditional vibrators, these devices use innovative air-pulse technology to create gentle suction and release patterns around the clitoris, offering a unique type of stimulation that many people find pleasurable.
Cock Cage
A cock cage, also known as a male chastity device, is a sex toy designed to enclose and restrict access to the penis, typically worn for extended periods as part of BDSM play or orgasm control practices. These devices prevent erections, masturbation, and sexual intercourse while worn, often requiring a partner to hold the key for removal.
Cock Ring
A cock ring (also called a penis ring or constriction ring) is a sex toy designed to be worn around the base of the penis or around both the penis and testicles, typically made of silicone, metal, or other body-safe materials, that works by restricting blood flow to help maintain firmer, longer-lasting erections and potentially enhance sexual sensation.
Collaring
Collaring is a BDSM practice and ritual where one partner (typically the dominant) presents a collar to another partner (typically the submissive) as a symbol of their commitment, power exchange dynamic, and relationship status, similar to how a wedding ring represents marriage in traditional relationships. The collar itself can be decorative or functional, ranging from elegant jewelry to leather accessories, and its presentation often involves a ceremony or agreement that establishes or deepens the partners' power exchange dynamic.
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Dom drop
Dom drop refers to the physical and emotional crash that a dominant partner may experience after an intense BDSM scene or power exchange dynamic, characterized by feelings of exhaustion, sadness, guilt, or anxiety as their body returns to its normal hormonal state. This phenomenon is similar to sub drop but occurs specifically in the dominant partner who has been in charge of the scene or dynamic.
Dungeon
A dungeon, in BDSM context, refers to a dedicated space designed for BDSM activities and play. It's not necessarily underground or prison-like as the name might suggest. Instead, it's a controlled environment equipped with various BDSM furniture, toys, and equipment to facilitate different types of scenes and activities.
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Handcuffs
Handcuffs are restraint devices commonly used in BDSM and bondage play. They typically consist of two adjustable loops connected by a chain or hinge, designed to secure a person's wrists or ankles. In a sexual context, handcuffs are used to restrict movement and create a sense of powerlessness, which can be arousing for some individuals. They come in various materials, including metal, leather, and fabric, each offering different sensations and levels of restraint.
Harness
A harness is a wearable piece of equipment used in various sexual activities, typically designed to secure a sex toy or to facilitate certain sexual practices. The most common type is a strap-on harness, which is worn around the hips and pelvis to hold a dildo or other insertable toy in place, allowing the wearer to penetrate their partner. Harnesses can be made from various materials such as leather, nylon, or fabric, and come in different styles to suit various body types and preferences.
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Packer
A packer is a soft, phallic-shaped prosthetic device worn inside underwear or clothing to create the appearance of a penis bulge, commonly used by transgender men, nonbinary individuals, or anyone who wishes to present with a more masculine-appearing crotch area. These prosthetics can range from simple fabric-filled pouches to more realistic silicone devices designed for both aesthetic and functional purposes.
Penis Sleeve
A penis sleeve, also known as a penis extender or enhancer, is a sex toy designed to fit over a penis to increase its size, girth, or both. It's typically made of soft, flexible materials like silicone or TPE (thermoplastic elastomer) and can be worn during sexual activities. Penis sleeves come in various sizes, textures, and designs to enhance sexual pleasure for both partners.
Pony play
Pony play is a form of BDSM roleplay where one partner takes on the role of a horse or pony while the other acts as a trainer, handler, or rider, often involving specialized equipment like bridles, bits, and tack. This kink can involve various activities like prancing, pulling carts, being groomed, or performing tricks, with participants finding enjoyment in the power exchange dynamics and the theatrical aspects of assuming equine characteristics.
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Sex Pillow
A sex pillow (also called a positioning pillow) is a specially designed cushion made to support various sexual positions, enhance comfort, and reduce physical strain during intimate activities. These pillows are typically made with firm, high-density foam and feature washable covers, distinguishing them from regular bedroom pillows by providing targeted support for specific body parts and maintaining their shape under pressure.
Sex Toys
Sex toys are objects or devices used to enhance sexual pleasure and stimulation, either during solo masturbation or partnered sexual activities. They come in a wide variety of shapes, sizes, and functions designed to stimulate the genitals or other erogenous zones of the body. Some common types of sex toys include vibrators, dildos, anal plugs, masturbation sleeves, and cock rings.
Sounding rod
A sounding rod (or urethral sound) is a medical or sexual device designed to be carefully inserted into the urethra - the tube that carries urine out of the body - either for medical procedures or as part of a sexual practice called urethral sounding. While originally developed for medical purposes to dilate or examine the urethra, these smooth metal or silicone rods have been adopted by some individuals for sexual pleasure, though this practice carries significant health risks if not done safely and hygienically.
Speculum
A speculum is a medical instrument used to dilate and examine body cavities, most commonly the vagina or rectum. It allows healthcare providers to visually inspect internal tissues during gynecological exams, Pap smears, or other medical procedures.
Spreader Bar
A spreader bar is a rigid bar with attachment points at both ends, used in BDSM and bondage practices to keep a person's body parts spread apart. Typically made of metal or sturdy plastic, spreader bars are designed to restrain and position the body, often keeping legs, arms, or even the mouth open and immobile. They can vary in length and may have adjustable features to accommodate different body sizes and desired levels of restraint.
Strap-on Harness
A strap-on harness is a wearable device designed to hold a dildo or other phallic-shaped sex toy in place for penetrative sexual activities. It typically consists of a series of straps that fit around the wearer's hips and thighs, with a secure mounting point for attaching a compatible dildo. Strap-on harnesses allow individuals without a penis to engage in penetrative sex acts, or those with a penis to use an alternative penetrative device.
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Vampire gloves
Vampire gloves are a type of BDSM impact play accessory consisting of leather gloves with small metal spikes or points on the palm and finger areas, designed to create sensations ranging from light scratching to more intense stimulation when dragged across the skin. These gloves get their name from the way the metal points can leave small marks or indentations on the skin, similar to tiny vampire bites.
Vibrating Cock Ring
A vibrating cock ring is a sex toy designed to be worn around the base of the penis or testicles. It combines the features of a traditional cock ring with a small vibrating motor, providing stimulation for both partners during sexual activity. The vibrations can enhance sensation for the wearer and their partner, particularly during penetrative sex.
Vibrator
A vibrator is a sex toy designed to stimulate the body, usually the genitals, using vibration. They come in many shapes and sizes to provide different types of stimulation. Vibrators are commonly used for masturbation, but can also be incorporated into partnered sexual activity. Many are designed to stimulate the clitoris, while others can be used for vaginal or anal penetration.